Two or Three: Vasectomy Talk

Almost as soon as we had our daughter, we said that we needed to stop at two.  Both of us always thought that we wanted a big family.  When it comes right down to it though, we just don’t have the more for that right now.  And so it is hard.  We told each other that we would just have my husband snipped when he went for his check-up in June.  And that was the end of it.  We didn’t talk about it more until now.

Well, now we are not so sure.  This is the month to say something or forever hold our peace.  There will be no turning back.  We had the talk and it seems that we both always saw us with three children.  At this point we are just not sure anymore.  And I am not sure that it is me wanting another or if it is just the fact that we wouldn’t have the option anymore.

What I do know, is that I am not ready to say this is the end of the road for sure.  I don’t want to regret this later if it turns out that things get better for us in a year or two.  And at the same time, we could do really well with what we have now.  We could save up and really provide for our two kids.  I also believe that we could find a way with three if we needed to.

WHY CAN’T THIS BE EASY!??!?!

Comments

  1. well… if you're not 100% positive then you should wait. this is the advice that everyone seems to give on this topic. and the other things I read, is that people don't regret having another child, but they do regret not having the child they longed for. just food for thought :) Just think down the road… are you guys going to wish that you had the 3rd child that you both originally wanted? its just $. how much more $ does 1 more child really cost anyways? you already have the diapers and the milk and the clothes… LOL